One of the questions I hear all the time is, "What
happened to my intuition? I used to feel so connected, but now I don't seem to
be getting anything."
If that's how you've been feeling lately, don't be too
quick to think you've lost your intuition because, in my experience, that's
rarely what's actually happening.
Before we go any further, let's talk about what intuition
actually feels like because many people expect it to be much more dramatic than
it really is. Most of the time, it's simply a feeling in your gut, an inner
knowing, or a thought that keeps coming back. It may be a feeling that
something isn't quite right or an unexpected sense that you're headed in the
right—or wrong—direction. The more you recognize those moments, the easier it
becomes to trust them.
After doing intuitive readings for so many years, I've
found that almost everyone reaches a point where they start questioning
themselves. They wonder if they've lost their gift, have become disconnected
from their spirit guides, or somehow forgotten how to trust themselves. The
truth is, it's much more common than you might think. In fact, it still happens
to me at times. The difference is that now I don't panic when it happens
because I've learned it's a normal part of developing trust in my intuition.
In many cases, your intuition hasn't changed at all. What's
changed is your confidence in it.
So Why Does This Happen?
One thing I've noticed is that people tend to ask the same
question in several different ways when they're nervous about making a
decision. They pull another tarot card, ask for another sign, watch another
video, or even book another reading because they're hoping for an answer that
feels more definite.
I completely understand why. Most of us would love to know
exactly how everything is going to turn out before we take that first step. We
don't want to make a mistake or miss an opportunity, so naturally we want all
the answers before we move forward.
In my experience, though, that's not how intuition works. Your
spirit guides rarely hand you the entire plan all at once. More often, they
help you recognize the next step. Once you take it, the next piece often
becomes much easier to see.
It’s like driving at night. Your headlights don't show you
the entire trip. They simply light the road ahead, and that's enough to keep
moving forward. Our intuition is often a lot like that.
What Makes Us Doubt Our Intuition?
Sometimes fear is louder than your inner knowing. Sometimes
you're under so much stress that your mind is racing from one thought to
another. Sometimes you're emotionally invested in a particular outcome, so it's
difficult to separate what you hope will happen from what your intuition is
trying to tell you. And sometimes, you've already received the guidance you need,
but the answer isn't what you were hoping to hear.
Deep down, we already know the relationship isn't healthy,
the job isn't making us happy, or it's finally time to make a change. Sometimes
we're simply not ready. But because we're not ready to accept that answer, we
push it aside and keep asking the same question, hoping our intuition will tell
us something different.
I've had clients ask the same question several times over a
period of weeks, and every time I could sense that they already knew the answer.
They weren't looking for guidance anymore; they were looking for certainty.
Those are two very different things.
I sometimes compare it to asking a friend for advice. If
you keep going to the same friend with the same problem but never take their
advice, eventually they may stop offering it. I've found our intuition often
works in a similar way. If we keep ignoring the guidance we've already
received, it can start to feel as though we're not hearing anything anymore. In
reality, the message may not have changed at all—we've simply been hoping for a
different one.
How to Reconnect With Your Intuition
If you're questioning your intuition right now, please don’t
think that something’s wrong. Just because your intuition doesn't feel as
obvious today doesn't mean you've lost your connection.
Next, give yourself a little breathing room. You don't have
to spend hours meditating if that's not your thing. Instead, go for a walk, sit
outside with a cup of coffee or tea, write in a journal, or spend a little time
away from your phone and the constant stream of opinions telling you what you
should think or feel.
I also encourage people to ask themselves a simple
question: "If I already knew the answer, what would it be?" It's
amazing how often an answer comes to mind when we stop trying so hard to force
one.
Finally, remember that confidence grows every time we trust
our intuition. Over time, it becomes easier to recognize the difference between
fear, wishful thinking, and genuine intuitive guidance.
One Final Thought
Be patient with yourself. Learning to trust your intuition
is a process, and every one of us questions ourselves from time to time. The
important thing isn't being perfect; it's simply being willing to listen.
So, if this sounds familiar, try something different.
Instead of asking, "Why can't I hear my intuition anymore?" ask
yourself, "What have I already been sensing that I've been afraid to
trust?"
You may discover that the guidance has been there all
along. Sometimes the only thing that's been missing is your confidence in what
you were already sensing.
